I wanted to start this post by sharing an email I received from my dad, who also happens to be a pastor.
Neged (neh’-ghed) a front, that is, part opposite; specifically a counterpart, or mate; usually over against or before.
Basically it refers to a person who stands opposite of another and is the complimentary part of the relationship…what one lacks, the other has. Thought it might help understand this word we don’t use anymore
Thanks so much, Dad! 
The following chapter outlines are ideas and scripture that I want to ponder a little more. Anything in quotes is taken directly from the book Created to Be His Help Meet by Debi Pearl. There were definitely some things that challenged me as I read these two chapters. I definitely need to pray for wisdom.
If you haven’t read my outlines of the first four chapters here are the links.
Chapter 5-The Gift of Wisdom
- “Ask God for wisdom to become the very best help meet.”
- “It doesn’t take a good man, or even a saved man, for a woman to have a heavenly marriage, but it does take a woman willing to honor God by being the kind of wife God intended. It takes one woman willing to be a help meet-a suitable helper. If you look at your husband and can’t find any reason to want to help him-and I know some of you are married to men like that-then look to Christ and know that it is He who made you to be a help meet. You serve Christ by serving your husband, whether he deserves it or not.”
- “Honor, Submit, Reverence”
- “…wisdom is not earned; it is a gift.”
- James 1:5
- Titus 2:3-5
- Ephesians 5:22-24
- Colossians 3:18
- 1 Corinthians 11:3
- Psalm 37:3-8
God’s Blueprint for Marriage
- “God commands wives to submit to their OWN husbands.”
- “God informs men that they are the head of the wife.”
- “God tells the wives to be subject to their husbands in everything, every decision, every move, every plan, and all everyday affairs.”
“Today as you read this you have two choices open to you. You can excuse yourself from responsibility by mentally assigning various excuses to your situation, or you can choose to believe God and become a 100% help meet regardless of anything.”
Questions:
- “What is the key to understanding our roles as wives?”
- “Where are peace and joy found?”
- “If your husband does not love you, does that negate your responsibility or prevent you from fulfilling your role?”
- What is the gift that God gives that will help you in your pursuit of becoming a help meet?”
- “List three words that are part of the blueprint for help meets.”
- “What can you do that will cause you to know God more and cause you to care about the things He cares about?”
- “Are you committed to having a heavenly marriage?”
Chapter 6-The Beginning of Wisdom
- “Fear-Wisdom…is fathered by fear.”
- “No woman has ever been happy and fulfilled who neglected to obey God in regard to her role as help meet.”
- “Peace is a fruit of the spirit.”
- Galatians 5:22-23
- Psalm 111:10
- Proverbs 9:10
- Proverbs 1:7
- Titus 2:3-4
- “Wisdom is a gift, yet we receive it by asking. And it is given to us liberally by God.”
- Proverbs 30:21-23
- Define odious. “Learn to hate the idea of ever being guilty of such a thing.”
- “Any time you are showing blame or irritation toward others, keep in mind that the earth is disquieted due to your being an odious married woman.
“When you feel yourself beginning to have a critical spirit, stop, take a deep breath, silently ask for wisdom, then think of something that is on your thankful list. This is remodeling a habit, and, in time, practice makes perfect.”
